~ Amenti Rama ~
Accepting a changing reality
Civilisations - three steps
Civilizations have always been based on the idea that they were going
to last forever, that successive generations would bring more progress
and that everyone needed to keep on working hard to give their children
the future they deserve. Countless people slave every day for these
ever-fleeting ideals and promises of materialist utopia. Yet
civilizations in the past have risen and fallen, and nothing could make
us think the current one will be an exception. Human-built structures
are not above the ebb and flow of nature -- they are part of it.
The image of a permanent civilization is a by-product of the ego of
millions of people. This way to see the world mirrors the illusion of
the ego that it is going to live forever, it offers comfort to its
insecurities. People are enslaved not by civilization -- which is only
an immaterial concept -- but by their ego which is fed and maintained
by these ideas. It also makes the finite games of society -- elections,
sport competitions, media scandals, success stories -- issues which are
not only worthy of attention but actually important.
In the face of death
Some people, however, do come to realize the illusion of permanence and
linear progress. They are forced to deeply internalize the fact that
their particular cycle is going to end, in short, that they are going
to die. This realization can come under many forms -- accident,
suicidal tendency, death of a loved one, near-death experience -- but
perhaps the best example are those who come to know they have a deadly
illness, that their days on this life are numbered.
Naturally we are all going to die or, as it has been put, "life is a
terminal disease". Since the day we are born, every day gets us closer
to our death. A few months or a few decades is only a fraction of a
second from the universe's point of view. However for so-called "sane"
people, the ego can continue to act as if it's going to live forever
and, if thoughts of death accidentally crop in waking consciousness,
they can be safely brushed off or put aside for "later".
People with deadly illnesses do not have this comfort, this buffer, and
thus have to learn to live with the reality of death. The different
stages which occur in the face of this new reality are a bit of a
cliché, yet even just a fleeting understanding of them can bring
much of light on our life, so we shall expand on them thorough this
article. These stages are the ones of denial, anger/despair and
acceptance, which do not necessarily come in that order but which all
exist pretty distinctively.
Before we go on, we shall relate of a true story: there was once a man
who died believing he was suffering from a widespread cancer, as did
all his family and doctors. Upon autopsy, it was found that the man had
only a one-inch nodule of cancer in the liver, nothing which could have
killed him. What killed him was his mind, the beliefs he had accepted
from others, until the prophecy became self-fulfilling.
In voodoo cultures, something similar is at work when a sorcerer casts
an hex upon someone who ends up dying without any rational
explainations. This could be considered as a "ritualized pronouncement
of death by a powerful authority" and it makes no doubt that, for
"civilized" people, the medical body constitutes such a "powerful
authority", perhaps even more than the sorcerer is to the tribe.
This is not to imply that all deadly illnesses are illusory and that
those who have died in that manner were "too weak". Such judgements
would be disrespectful for all those who did their best in such
situations and, as we already said, death is something which comes for
all of us at one time or another. However, this should be a reminder of
the power of beliefs. Acceptance is important, but it's equally
important to consider what we accept.
Denial disguised as acceptance
This brings us to the topic of so-called "maturity". Every moment, in
one part of the world or another, parents, teachers and councellors are
sermoning youth to accept "reality", to stop following their dreams or
do things which society deems as innappropriate. Behind these words,
they are effectively asking these children, teenagers and young adults
to deny their experience of reality, and to start believing what
institutions such as the media and schools are telling them. They must
accept the bland consumerist reality needed by the system to function
Sadly this method works and most people start distrust what they see
and feel, gradually lose touch with their intuition and force
themselves to believe the lies of the system, until their mind
completely takes over. "Reality" has been accepted. Some sense of peace
and so-called "confidence" may be found now that their mind does not
have to constantly fight against their intuition, now that the whole
environment around them comforts them in their delusions, but the fact
is that these people are effectively living in illusion, veiling
themselves and their reality with more lies than they'd ever admit.
This is particular obvious regarding the planetary changes we are
currently experiencing. Everyone can feel that the world as we know it
is going to change profoundly in the coming years, but everyone keeps
on living as if it wasn't true, or important, shutting down the
increasingly strong messages coming from their soul in order to be able
to keep on functioning "normally" within society. Politicians and media
provide them with plenty of lies, false solutions and so-called
"experts" to rationalize their experience and patch up their illusion.
Without a willingness to seek the truth, these people will keep on
dwelling on this web of deceptions.
Overwhelmed by the truth
For others, the fight of the mind over the intuition is not so easily
won. Past wounds, a particular sensitivity or some unusual experiences
prevent the person to give up with their experience of reality.
Intuition is too strong to be ignored. Depression, anxiety,
schizophrenia, and other so-called "disorders" often appear. The person
feels guilty for experiencing reality differently, while everyone
around them try to make them think, more or less subtly, that they are
wrong, sick and stupid.
The increase of "mental disorders" in the past decade seems much linked
with the planetary changes we are going through. The soul cannot be
shut down anymore and starts manifesting in all kind of ways,
disrupting the ego and preventing the person to have a "normal" life.
This manifestation can occur externally, creating chaos in the
professional and social life, or internally, through an unability to
sleep, find comfort in consumerism and others things previously taken
However there is still a fight and, in relation to the stages
mentionned before, the person is experiencing despair, anger or both.
The familiar, comfortable reality of the ego is dissolving, but the new
reality has not yet been accepted and explored. Consequently the person
is living between two worlds, without a possibility to go back to the
illusion because the truth is too overwhelming. What the person has
experienced has changed her forever.
Beyond the unacceptable
As it is hopefully becoming clear, the only way forward is to accept
our new reality, the reality intuited by our soul. Instead of mourning
about our childhood when everything seemed easier, instead of forcing
ourselves to see good everywhere, we learn to live with this new
reality, observing it without taking anything personnaly.
How does this point of view affects our desire to help others? Does
this means that we now have to ignore misery and evil in this world
because "it has always been like this and there's nothing we can do
about it"? Does it mean we can lock ourselves in front of television
because "everything is going to come down anyway"? Absolutely not. This
is acceptance of false beliefs. If we listen to our soul, we'll see
this is not the reality it is showing us.
A better point of view would be: "I've chosen to come here for a
reason, I'm not guilty for all the problems in this world, but I'll do
my absolute best to live consciously and change things for the better,
no matter what happens". When guilt and self-pity are released, so is
depression and we are finally free to make a real difference in the
world, instead of constantly wishing the world was different (it is
We are all born with different qualities and an unique perspective of
reality and naturally there's always an associated negative side. There
is no point in feeling bad about what we experience and envious of
others' reality. This only makes us feel miserable as there is a
constant clinging for something different. Instead we should explore
our reality and see how we could make the most of it while maintaining
balance. However, this can only be done when we have accepted our
reality as a whole.
A changing reality
Our reality is as it is at this particular moment in time, and nothing
else, yet it is also constantly changing, constantly evolving, at the
same time as we are. As scientists have discovered in the 20th century,
and as buddhists have known by experience for much longer, the whole
universe dies and is reborn every fraction of a second. Each of our
actions defines the future of our self, our community, our planet and
the universe. By making choices, rooted in the ever-present moment, we
actually create our future.
Deep inside, it's difficult to realize the changing quality of reality.
Our ego is so used to cling toward the comfortable and the familiar
that most of the days seem to repeat themselves. This attachement to
the past is keeping us stuck in our evolution because we fail to notice
the new challenges and opportunities which are presenting themselves to
us. Breaking one habit a day is a good practice, however the best way
to notice the constant changes is through observation, which can take
many forms such as meditation, contemplation and self-observation
(keeping an awareness of ourselves while we go through our daily
Vipassana meditation, as it was taught by Gotama the Buddha 2500 years
ago, is another such technique whose goal is to become aware of our
bodily sensations, as they are. After a while, we come to realize that
any trace of desire or aversion toward particular sensations prevent us
to observe it properly. While our mind is distracted by this desire or
aversion, it imagines the nature of the sensation by recalling it from
the past. It's only when we are able to regain equanimity and go beyond
this duality that we can feel the actual sensation, in all its
subtility and originality. The same applies for the observation of
Going with the flow
Observing reality as it is rather than how our ego would like it to be
allows us to move more easily within the flow of life, to understand
the lessons we have to learn and to choose the direction we need to go.
When we are one with the flow, it all becomes easier because everything
is arranged around us to help us in our path. This is what the Tao is
This requires to release control, allow all things and trust our
intuition. We need in particular to stop relying on our mind to predict
the future, because it will always be guess-work, while our soul knows
much better. We are constantly guided and protected, all we have to do
is stay centered in the present and, through observation, we can find
all the clues we need to make the right choices at the right time.
Gradually our perception of reality becomes more and more subtle. We
refine our consciousness. The finite games of society lose their
importance as we start playing within the one and only cosmic game of
life. We know that the end is never really an end, but only a part of
the eternal cycle of death and rebirth. We truly have nothing to fear.
As agent Smith says at the end of Matrix Revolutions: "Everything that
has a beginning has an end". This sentence dissolves the whole illusion
of the Matrix, leaving behind only peace and harmony. The fall of
civilization and the fall of our ego, no matter how terrifying it may
appear, can only bring us a brighter tomorrow.